December 31, 2017

Year-End Review

I wasn't able to fully appreciate personal reviews until 2 or 3 years ago when opportunities to develop myself started rolling in. I think the telling moment was when I was really starting to believe in myself again and know that I'm capable of doing great things and becoming something of note (in the very least, in my opinion).

These last couple of hours before the new year will have me writing out a bunch of personal reviews, contemplating on my 2017, looking forward to next year, and hopefully emptying my work inbox because man, I am not looking forward to a bajillion e-mails after this trip.

Anyway, my templates and guide questions are up. I just need a warm drink and music. Then the fun time party party can begin. Here's to the last few hours before the new year!

December 24, 2017

17 Questions To Ask Yourself That Will Help You Honestly Address How Well You’ve Spent Your Year Thus Far

1. What New Year’s resolutions have I honestly stayed true to, and what resolutions have I broken?

Back At It

May I should start writing again? For real this time.

Since my last post in August 2016, I have been through so freaking much. I don't really expect people to come to this space, or go online and actively look for my blog. It's fine. I'll just post my stuff here should someone chance upon whatever experiences I post, they can relate to it.

For now, I'm planning to do the 2017 Year in Review. I have about a week left until the year ends so I have to do this now.

Brain dumping is such a great release. Too many thoughts can really leave your machine all rusty and clunky. Well anyway, here I go. I'll be back soon.

August 28, 2016

What Improv Theatre is Like for a Type A Control Freak

Thinking on my feet gives me anxiety.

I have always been the type of person who needs certainty. Generally, if I have questions or doubts about certain things, I need to know the answers right away. I cloak myself too much in the comfort and stability of certainty.

It's a fatal flaw of type A control freaks. We have several outcomes and placeholders in mind even before actions to those outcomes have begun. Since we want things to happen in a certain way, we attempt to control the means to actually make it happen. Not getting the result we want, not having the power to control what it takes to achieve our desired results, and not having certainty about the outcomes or the actions result to frustration and thus, anxiety.

It's madness, I tell you.

May 13, 2016

Immature vs. Mature Love by Osho

“In fact a mature person does not fall in love, he rises in love. The word ’fall’ is not right. Only immature people fall; they stumble and fall down in love.

Somehow they were managing and standing. They cannot manage and they cannot stand – they find a woman and they are gone, they find a man and they are gone.

They were always ready to fall on the ground and to creep. They don’t have the backbone, the spine; they don’t have that integrity to stand alone.

A mature person has the integrity to be alone. And when a mature person gives love, he gives without any strings attached to it: he simply gives.

And when a mature person gives love, he feels grateful that you have accepted his love, not vice versa.

He does not expect you to be thankful for it – no, not at all, he does not even need your thanks. He thanks you for accepting his love.

And when two mature persons are in love, one of the greatest paradoxes of life happens, one of the most beautiful phenomena: they are together and yet tremendously alone; they are together so much so that they are almost one.

But their oneness does not destroy their individuality, in fact, it enhances it: they become more individual.

Two mature persons in love help each other to become more free.

There is no politics involved, no diplomacy, no effort to dominate. How can you dominate the person you love? Just think over it.

Domination is a sort of hatred, anger, enmity.

How can you think of dominating a person you love? You would love to see the person totally free, independent; you will give him more individuality.

That’s why I call it the greatest paradox: they are together so much so that they are almost one, but still in that oneness they are individuals. Their individualities are not effaced – they have become more enhanced. The other has enriched them as far as their freedom is concerned.

Immature people falling in love destroy each other’s freedom, create a bondage, make a prison. Mature persons in love help each other to be free; they help each other to destroy all sorts of bondages.

And when love flows with freedom there is beauty. When love flows with dependence there is ugliness.”

— Osho